Given she has a rav4, and your used to that type of reliability and money spent on service.
Id say lexus RX. They might not be the most luxurious etc but they are damn nice inside. Their depreciation isnt that bad and look hella nice in some colors. I beleive they have the "F sport" model also.
doubt any car aside from the volvo will be as cheap to own and reliable for the price. When you change into the "Luxury" side of SUV's its never ending. problem is latest and greatest is changing so rapidly. If you want to step into that ring go ahead but you have to keep upgrading to